All the rain we've been having recently has brought with it several "rainy" metaphors. Just the other day I read that "Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass but rather learning how to dance in the rain!" How profound! Then on Wednesday a customer of mine said she loves when it rains because she pretends that God is getting ready to make dinner for her. "How else are the fruits and vegetables going to grow?", she said. Interesting. It's very true that how we look at situations, interpret occurrences and then talk about these things affects our mood or better yet our level of happiness more than anything else. But I also believe that God designed us to experience pain so that we can know when we are headed in the wrong direction. Pain doesn't always mean that we are headed in the wrong direction but it can and here's how to know it. And I believe the top 5 reasons why sometimes........ you aren't happy.
Your head is full and your body is empty- We all need deep sleep. Notice I wrote "need" and "deep". If you're not getting enough deep sleep, and only you know what is enough, then you are twice as susceptible to depression, temptation, falling back into old bad habits, complaining and laziness. Skip the pills and wine before bed. Instead try this. Write down or type out your thoughts, dreams and concerns. It's ok to write anything! Empty your head! Always end with "better is on the way" and "it's all gonna work out". It's also ok to write down how far you've come and things you are proud of. Heck write down "I didn't steal anything or kill anybody today", that's a positive demonstration of self control! Your body is still empty (and weak) Now that you have emptied your head, fill your body. Fill it with live food. (in the morning of course) Your body is alive and actually re-energizes and feeds off of other living organisms. You know that from your 5th grade science class. Eat raw fruit, green vegetables and almonds. In scientific experiments almonds actually give off 5 times more energy than foods that come from a box like crackers, cookies or chips. And finally fill your body back up with good oxygen. Did you know that shallow breathing or more importantly shallow exhaling only rids your lungs of 80% of the bad oxygen? That's the oxygen your body stores and reuses. Can you imagine reusing the oil in your car engine after 5,000 miles or reusing the milk left in your cereal bowl for a week straight? Yuck! So don't reuse your oxygen. Get rid of and replenish that old oxygen with super deep exhales. The best way to do that of course is with cardio exercise. I don't want to hear that you hate running because we are going to discover a movement that you like to do right now! Jump rope, swim, do sexual thrusts in the mirror, ride a bike, climb a hill, take the stairs, play Wii sports while jogging in place, chase your dog, run wind sprints every time you swear or roller blade. (I think that about covers it) Only 2 things to remember here. First is to find a motion that you enjoy doing and do it over and over again. That is the key to exercise and I will blog much more about that soon! Second, when you exhale keep blowing that air out deeper than you normally would. Practice right now for 10 seconds! Through your nose only, take a regular breath in. Still using your nose only now exhale. When you feel you are done, wait and blow the rest out with your mouth! Keep blowing out! Feel that extra 20 percent being released for 2 more seconds? That's your old recylced air, get rid of it! Now take a deep breathe in through your nose again , breathe deep and exhale through your nose. Once again when you feel your chest sink and your are ready to breathe in again, don't! Instead open your mouth and blow out that extra 20% for 2 more seconds. That's what happens when you exercise and I promise you'll feel an amazing difference in as little as one day!
Unresolved issues in relationships- Type out an email saying whatever you want but don't send it. Or send it to me and pretend like I'm that person. Write a letter and write everything that comes into your mind! For once, no filter! Write out all those things you wish you would have said or could say now. Actually put a stamp on it to validate it but without an address. Don't put the address and skip the stamp thinking they won't deliver it. One time the nicest postal worker decided to deliver one of my practice release letters without the stamp. Wow, what a surprise when the recipient called me! That's for another blog. This is for you! Release it! Ahhhhhhhh!
You have moved away from your core values- Cleaning your 4 bedroom house? Washing 2 cars? Feeding 6 mouths? Trying to please 3 bosses, 2 lovers and 3 kids? Managing 2 checking accounts and 1 diminishing savings account? Sounds nothing like what you dreamed about when you were in high school or college does it? What "fires you up"? Painting, cooking, hiking, serving in church, teaching little kids, playing baseball or duct taping cats to railroad tracks? Get back to it! Now!! Take baby steps, blog, write 3 goals and do one right now, network, facetwit it, buy a book about it, wake up 1 hour earlier than usual and just go do "it" without telling anyone. Like Nike says "Just Do It". No one is judging your progress except you so when you begin taking baby steps you have nothing to judge but progress, positive change and accomplishment!
You are looking at the glass half empty- Age old sayings are age old because they are true and accurate regardless of how we evolve and how open minded society becomes. (some are so open minded their brains have fallen out of their heads) Every gray cloud has a silver lining. Wait it'll reveal itself at the right time. Tell yourself "it could always be worse, look how far I've come" and the hardest one..... ask yourself "what's good about this situation?" If the glass if half empty then it's also still half full. Many people burn for that half. Thank God you have it!
You're telling yourself the wrong story- Nothing lasts forever right? So why do we subconsciously tell ourselves that? Starting an exercise program, going to that dreadful job on Monday, marriage counseling, helping a friend move? It's only temporary. So remind yourself with "This too shall pass", "Nothing lasts forever" and "Better is on the way!" Ever have someone ask you "if you hate it so much then why are going?"Your response is most likely "because I have to!" Stop telling yourself you "have to." Even if it's fake tell yourself "I want to or I choose to". Then in the midst of this task that you get to do take a short break and do something else that you really choose to. I really don't like to clean my condo. And I hate dusting! Instead of saying "I have to clean today", I say "I get to clean my awesome condo and blast my music!" In the middle of cleaning I always take a short break and play a video game for 10 minutes and then get right back to cleaning. Next time you get to help a friend move, take a break and go shopping for some new clothes. Do both and enjoy the day!
I hope this helps you! May you smile more today than you did yesterday. May you breathe better, laugh harder and sleep deeper!
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
"Back when I was a kid........."
When you hear someone say "back when I was a kid", do you laugh or listen? Do you tune them out or tune them in? What really goes through your mind? I'm only in my early forties so being "a kid" doesn't seem that long ago and fortunately for me people still tell me to "grow up"! Lol. Yet I find myself saying "back when I was a kid" more and more often these days. Of course coming out of the 80's, the single greatest generation ever, it's no surprise! In the 80's we didn't have to say "yes sir" and "yes ma am" which is probably why if you asked us to do it now, it'd be no problem. Our president was Reagan. A stoic, powerful and unwavering man with an oak tree of a vision. Those poor flower children of the 70's. They had no choice and got stuck with the remnants of an adulterating president that was tragically shot to death and then a con man that was impeached. The whiners of the 90's were stuck with a lovely combo of an adulterer and con man and of course....... honored Mr. Clinton! Back when I was a kid we played more games outside and therefore got more exercise. We talked less and therefore argued less. And we used our imagination way more than kids nowadays. Too much technology can become a crutch. Does this sound "negative"? Does it sound like I'm complaining about something that probably won't change? Hmmm, maybe. But sometimes that's what it takes. Just the other night I was woken up at 2 am! Outside my window were loud teenagers that just wouldn't shut up! I yelled out the window at them, told them to go somewhere else but to no avail. They completely ignored me. So I called the cops. Turns out this was a great thing to do! The reason there was so much noise was because about 20 teenagers had broke into the abandoned building next door and were throwing a drug infested party! So all of a sudden 5 squad cars showed up with a paddy wagon and cleared em all out! Ah but the last laugh was actually on me because now there were 10 rugged Chicago cops loudly bellowing out stories of the night right below my window! And I wasn't about to tell them to "shut up"!
The trouble with always being "positive" is that it's hard to look at problems objectively. You have to be willing to complain, look at what's wrong and experience some discomfort in order to objectively examine a problem. Call that problem a hurdle, challenge, opportunity, game or whatever in order to put your powerful mind into the right state of conciousness in order to discover solutions. But.... you must first recognize the problem. That doesn't make you negative! And why was I the only one with "balls" enough to call the cops and complain? Jeez! I know the other neighbors were disrupted by the loud little rugrats because I heard them all talking about it after the cops arrived! If you don't like something, say something! And offer a solution too! :-)
Back when I was a kid, I did the same sorts of things as those teenagers. But you know what happened back then? A neighbor would calmly come outside and say "Hey guys can you tone it down a bit? If you don't then I'll have to tell your parents you drank all their beer. Hey give me one of those anyway for a nightcap." And you know what? We would have been thankful and humbly said "Thanks for bein cool about this Mr. Smith. Sorry we woke you guys up." Nowadays? Forget it. And that's too bad because back when I was a kid we smiled and laughed together. I don't see a whole lot of that with today's teens. Hmmmmm maybe I'm onto something here :-)
The trouble with always being "positive" is that it's hard to look at problems objectively. You have to be willing to complain, look at what's wrong and experience some discomfort in order to objectively examine a problem. Call that problem a hurdle, challenge, opportunity, game or whatever in order to put your powerful mind into the right state of conciousness in order to discover solutions. But.... you must first recognize the problem. That doesn't make you negative! And why was I the only one with "balls" enough to call the cops and complain? Jeez! I know the other neighbors were disrupted by the loud little rugrats because I heard them all talking about it after the cops arrived! If you don't like something, say something! And offer a solution too! :-)
Back when I was a kid, I did the same sorts of things as those teenagers. But you know what happened back then? A neighbor would calmly come outside and say "Hey guys can you tone it down a bit? If you don't then I'll have to tell your parents you drank all their beer. Hey give me one of those anyway for a nightcap." And you know what? We would have been thankful and humbly said "Thanks for bein cool about this Mr. Smith. Sorry we woke you guys up." Nowadays? Forget it. And that's too bad because back when I was a kid we smiled and laughed together. I don't see a whole lot of that with today's teens. Hmmmmm maybe I'm onto something here :-)
Friday, April 16, 2010
Grown Ups Suck!
Why is it children instinctively splash in rain puddles and adults deliberately walk around them? Adults won't even jump over a puddle! They walk around a puddle like it's the black hole of the universe waiting to suck them in! Personally I like to skip over puddles and I really don't care if the downtown Chicago snobs that rush past me think I'm gay, crazy or Peter Pan. (Kind of sounds like a Broadway Musical doesn't it?) That puddle is a small hurdle and I'm going to leap over it! (I can hear the exciting theme to Superman now) That's how I view it. So if children splash in puddles on purpose, does that mean they look at puddles, spilled milk and clothes on the floor as opportunities to have fun? Hmmmmmm? I find myself yelling at my kids over and over about the stupidest things. Notice I said "yelling" and "over and over". I have to lol at myself. All I'm doing is causing myself aggravation! My kids like to crank call people from their cell phones and when I overhear them, I start screaming and disciplining them. My kids aren't swearing at anyone, they aren't making threats and oddly enough the people they crank call don't hang up right away, rather they engage my kids! Jeez, maybe I should join them. Kids know how to have fun and the older we get, we may get wiser, but we definitely become less and less fun. And that is quite sad to me. After all, I'm off to the kingdom of fun known as Vegas as I type away here! And why? Because I'm dying to have some fun! I am so excited right now I feel like a kid on Christmas morning! Or maybe ........ a kid splashing in a puddle!
Sunday, April 11, 2010
I"M NOT ON PROZAC YOU IDIOT!!!!!!
So here's my theory on why people have such poor communication skills these days. People sit in a box, type on a box and put their brain in a box. Let's review. You sit in your box as in cubicle, apartment or bedroom and type on your box like your laptop or your smart phone and you....... well you put your brain in a box! Which means you have trouble apologizing, you don't like being held accountable, you can't notice how someone is reacting to your words and you don't end things well. No apologies, no resolutions, no learning, no improvement and no hugs. Now this isn't aimed just at you! It's aimed at all of us. And that means the people that hurt YOU! Think about it, if you feel it's acceptable to send a text to your soon to be former boss that says "I quit" because it's so much easier for you then that person you are dating, (you know the one you can't stop thinking about and you've told all your friends about), they are allowed to send you a text that says "I'm breaking up with you!" If you insist on having everyone love you on FaceTwit, then be prepared to feel all warm and cozy with a "virtual hug" after you announce your doggy died.
Alright let me try to put a positive Prozac spin on this. Email and texting are so convenient and save us so much time that we now have much more time to exercise, maintain our professional and romantic relationships and look after our financial investments right? Afterall isn't obesity down in this country? Divorce rates are declining and people are retiring at earlier ages, right? Oh wait, lol, I was watching an 80's rerun of The Cosby Show! (mmmm Lisa Bonet!) What set off this rant you ask? Lol, several things.
First was an episode I witnessed in Vegas. Yes I know, it's Vegas what did I expect? But I had to get involved. You see a drunk homeless woman decided to interrupt every one's morning swim by diving into the Golden Nugget Hotel pool and and refusing to leave after security politely asked her to exit the pool. So instead of yanking the piece of crap out of the pool, they actually made all the other paying guests get out of the pool so they could safely remove the homeless drunk! I was sitting at least 30 feet away from the commotion enjoying a book and a beer so I was oblivious to the "situation". However my friends alerted me to what was going on and I blew a gasket! I walked up to the portly little security guard and said "If you don't pull that fat piece of shit out of this pool right now, I will!" He slowly leered over his sunglasses at me and said with a slight Prozac drawl, "Son, the police are on their way. Let us handle this." I raised my voice and hollered, "You are sending the wrong message to people! You made innocent families, paying guests and little kids get out of the pool but you leave this piece of crap in it?! What the hell is wrong with you?!" This time he stared at me with his Prozac glare and mumbled "You need to calm down."....... thirty seconds later the cops arrived. Have you ever been justifiably upset about something and had some one tell you "Calm down!"? It's got to be the single worst thing anyone can say to someone that is justifiably upset. It only makes you more upset!I walked away shaking my head in disgust while the foolish guests snapped pictures of the loch ness drunk and pointed and sneered. Entertaining I guess. But I'm not on Prozac. Not long after my return to civilization, I had the intense displeasure of dealing with some cubicle cretins. One told me via email (since it's so much easier to be mean and insensitive via email) that she forgot to keep her promise to send out purchased goods to one of my customers and that I needed to be more patient and understanding. Hmmm waiting 4 weeks for something that normally takes 2 weeks, 24 hours earlier you promised to send out the product and I need to be more patient and understanding? I replied with "I'm now going to use my patience and understanding to waste 3 hours of my day driving out to pick up and hand deliver the merchandise to the customer!" And I'm not even on Prozac. Less than a week later I had more intense displeasure in dealing with this person's supervisor or as I like to call them "Stupidvisors". With a 5 pm deadline approaching I relayed instructions pertaining to a special event via email at 4:40 pm. Cutting it a little close? Maybe. But this person's response at 6 pm when it was too late to make any changes is what completely outraged me. She emailed "I don't have time to check my emails starting at 4 o'clock. You should have called me live. Besides I'm almost never at my desk." That is her exact quote! Ok, easy target here :-) ! Since I'm not on Prozac I sent an email to 3 of the top managers involved with this project. I simply wrote "Number one, if this person is going to set her own deadline as to when she stops reading and replying to emails, she should send out that warning beforehand. (pretty easy to do actually since emails can be set up to autoreply with such stupid and selfish messages) Secondly, she said I should have called her but also stated she is hardly ever at her desk so how did she plan on answering her phone anyway? (we aren't talking about a person that provides her cell number) And lastly who is she to set her own email cutoff times?" Turns out it did some good! The following day she sent an email to me (copying all 3 managers that I contacted) full of excuses but an apology as well! See, it helps to skip the Prozac and speak your mind!
The moral of the story: It's ok to get upset, talk with your hands, raise your voice, occasionally swear and stand up for yourself even at the risk of offending someone! It's called passion and passion my friends is a good thing!
Alright let me try to put a positive Prozac spin on this. Email and texting are so convenient and save us so much time that we now have much more time to exercise, maintain our professional and romantic relationships and look after our financial investments right? Afterall isn't obesity down in this country? Divorce rates are declining and people are retiring at earlier ages, right? Oh wait, lol, I was watching an 80's rerun of The Cosby Show! (mmmm Lisa Bonet!) What set off this rant you ask? Lol, several things.
First was an episode I witnessed in Vegas. Yes I know, it's Vegas what did I expect? But I had to get involved. You see a drunk homeless woman decided to interrupt every one's morning swim by diving into the Golden Nugget Hotel pool and and refusing to leave after security politely asked her to exit the pool. So instead of yanking the piece of crap out of the pool, they actually made all the other paying guests get out of the pool so they could safely remove the homeless drunk! I was sitting at least 30 feet away from the commotion enjoying a book and a beer so I was oblivious to the "situation". However my friends alerted me to what was going on and I blew a gasket! I walked up to the portly little security guard and said "If you don't pull that fat piece of shit out of this pool right now, I will!" He slowly leered over his sunglasses at me and said with a slight Prozac drawl, "Son, the police are on their way. Let us handle this." I raised my voice and hollered, "You are sending the wrong message to people! You made innocent families, paying guests and little kids get out of the pool but you leave this piece of crap in it?! What the hell is wrong with you?!" This time he stared at me with his Prozac glare and mumbled "You need to calm down."....... thirty seconds later the cops arrived. Have you ever been justifiably upset about something and had some one tell you "Calm down!"? It's got to be the single worst thing anyone can say to someone that is justifiably upset. It only makes you more upset!I walked away shaking my head in disgust while the foolish guests snapped pictures of the loch ness drunk and pointed and sneered. Entertaining I guess. But I'm not on Prozac. Not long after my return to civilization, I had the intense displeasure of dealing with some cubicle cretins. One told me via email (since it's so much easier to be mean and insensitive via email) that she forgot to keep her promise to send out purchased goods to one of my customers and that I needed to be more patient and understanding. Hmmm waiting 4 weeks for something that normally takes 2 weeks, 24 hours earlier you promised to send out the product and I need to be more patient and understanding? I replied with "I'm now going to use my patience and understanding to waste 3 hours of my day driving out to pick up and hand deliver the merchandise to the customer!" And I'm not even on Prozac. Less than a week later I had more intense displeasure in dealing with this person's supervisor or as I like to call them "Stupidvisors". With a 5 pm deadline approaching I relayed instructions pertaining to a special event via email at 4:40 pm. Cutting it a little close? Maybe. But this person's response at 6 pm when it was too late to make any changes is what completely outraged me. She emailed "I don't have time to check my emails starting at 4 o'clock. You should have called me live. Besides I'm almost never at my desk." That is her exact quote! Ok, easy target here :-) ! Since I'm not on Prozac I sent an email to 3 of the top managers involved with this project. I simply wrote "Number one, if this person is going to set her own deadline as to when she stops reading and replying to emails, she should send out that warning beforehand. (pretty easy to do actually since emails can be set up to autoreply with such stupid and selfish messages) Secondly, she said I should have called her but also stated she is hardly ever at her desk so how did she plan on answering her phone anyway? (we aren't talking about a person that provides her cell number) And lastly who is she to set her own email cutoff times?" Turns out it did some good! The following day she sent an email to me (copying all 3 managers that I contacted) full of excuses but an apology as well! See, it helps to skip the Prozac and speak your mind!
The moral of the story: It's ok to get upset, talk with your hands, raise your voice, occasionally swear and stand up for yourself even at the risk of offending someone! It's called passion and passion my friends is a good thing!
Inner Peace
On sale today....... "Inner Peace"! How much are you willing to spend? $100 bucks? How about 20 minutes a day for a whole year? For true "Inner Peace" would you trade your life savings, your reputation or your spouse? (Ummm, Tiger that was directed at you)This weekend Phil "Lefty" Mickelson won the 2010 Masters Tournament. And even if you prefer Reality TV over golf on your TV, this year's Masters was true Reality TV! For those of you that might not know that much about the professional golfing world, The Masters is one of the oldest and most highly regarded professional golf tournaments that a professional golfer can participate in. It is steeped in tradition and history and always played at the visually stunning Augusta National Golf Course resting in the warm and hospitable eastern edge of Georgia. Since the introduction of The Masters Tournament back in 1934 never before has a 16 year old participated in such an event. Until 2010! Matteo Manassero is the teen from Italy that competes and acts like the big boys instead of flashing a Ritalin induced Kool-Aid smile on American Idol whining "vote for me, vote for me". Not only that but 3 other teenagers participated as well. Well done kids, just keep it in your pants and we'll see you next year. However the sports media soap opera outlet known as ESPN couldn't get enough Tiger has Wood. Every chance CBS and ESPN (showing highlights) had, they splashed Tiger and his famous red shirt up on your TV screen. (Hey when you see bright red on an animal doesn't it usually mean poisonous, danger, stay back?)Nike had the "balls" to release a "new" Tiger commercial further shining the spotlight on the poor sex addicted athlete that we all admire. (insert canned laughter) I can't blame Nike one bit. After all, their target audience is the young and naive twenty somethings of the world with the most disposable income of any age demographic. So why not prop Tiger up? After all wasn't it all the young naive twenty somethings that said" Who cares if Tiger cheated on his wife? Leave him alone! Everyone does it! I'd do it too if I were him!" I know that's what 99% of you told me the day he was caught and exposed for cheating on his wife! Ahhh but Karma is a sweet kick in the pants! "Lefty" the man whose endearing wife was diagnosed with severe breast cancer last year, the man that always came in second to Tiger, the one that usually chokes under pressure....... he triumphed and was victorious. It's amazingly eyeopening to compare the two side by side. Did you know that Phil Mickelson successfully hit two shots in between two different sets of trees? When asked during the exciting post round interviews, "how did you do it?" Phil said with a smile "I just told myself to trust my swing." When asked about the mysterious pine needle that fell from the sky and actually derailed one of Phil's putts, Phil laughed and said" sometimes you gotta wonder if someone up there is out to get you." But all the while laughing it off. After his historic victory Phil was all smiles and calmly stated "It's been quite a year, it's just so great to have my family here to share this moment with, it all worked out." Tiger has Wood on the other hand pouted and scowled. When he hit a bad shot he didn't smile or laugh anything off. And during his post round rant he selfishly mumbled, "I came here to win, I hit some bad shots, I am going to take some time off." I,I,I, it's all about you isn't it Tiger? Quite the contrast between Phil and Tiger. One overcomes adversity with a smile and wins! The other hits a few bumps in the road, comes in 4 th place, pouts and quits. I'd say that Lefty was rewarded with many things on Sunday. The famed Green Jacket, a sweet kiss from his nearly cancer free wife and the respect and admiration of many. All of this should deliver inner peace. But I think he had inner peace before all this and that's why he came thru victorious!
Augusta National is never neglected, they don't let it go until it's covered in weeds and then cry for help. They maintain it daily. And if they were to cheat, neglect, pout and ......quit, I guarantee The Masters would be moved to another more deserving course. Augusta National would lose millions in revenue and it's glory would soon fade away. Too bad that won't happen to Tiger. Well actually I wish him well and hope his marriage makes it to the end. Ahhh Inner Peace
Augusta National is never neglected, they don't let it go until it's covered in weeds and then cry for help. They maintain it daily. And if they were to cheat, neglect, pout and ......quit, I guarantee The Masters would be moved to another more deserving course. Augusta National would lose millions in revenue and it's glory would soon fade away. Too bad that won't happen to Tiger. Well actually I wish him well and hope his marriage makes it to the end. Ahhh Inner Peace
Saturday, April 10, 2010
Every day's a gift
So it's the first day of my official blog and I couldn't decide if I should start off with slamming society for facebooking, cheering on Tiger Woods and eating too many donuts or..... if I should start by being positive and encouraging. Since the sun is shining and my coffee is delicious,(not to mention my beautiful 5 year old daughter is sitting next to me reading a book full of puppy pics while asking me "what do you think of this one"? on EVERY page), I'll start with the latter! :-)
I have to confess something to you. For about the first 40 years of my life I was a negative whiner! I am so ashamed of this. What a waste of precious time. Some of my negativity was learned at an early age. My mom ,(bless her heart for beating cancer twice and putting up with ME for all this time), can huff and puff more often than Obama barking out his Hitler health care reform. And her scowl can take the wind out of your sails faster than Tiger Woods can cheat on his wife. (Again and again and again and..... wait he just did it again) It's funny, I read great books like "Think and Grow Rich", modeled my ultra successful and positive dad, always told people I was gonna be a rock star, I was successful in sales and always bounced back from temporary defeat. I felt like I was being positive, I told myself I was being positive and compared to Hilary Clinton, I was positive. (Ever seen that fat turd smile? I didn't think so) But alas I was negative and this is how I discovered that I was negative and turned my frown upside down. As I mentioned by example earlier, we all know that young children often copy their parents without even realizing it, it's the way we are all made.(oh shit!) I have 3 awesome kids and as you can imagine, I have heard many things coming from the back seat of my car. Sometimes my kids can call the jaywalker casually walking in front of my speeding automobile a "jagoff" faster than I can! Well one day my daughter exclaimed "typical" from the back seat of my car after I cursed someone for taking the parking space I was patiently waiting for. A four year old exclaiming "typical" after a minor inconvenience? Horrendous! I was impacted and changed immediately and since that day I swear I've never uttered or even thought "typical". I wake up every day and immediately say out loud over and over "every day's a gift" And if I occasionally have trouble thinking of things to be extra grateful for or if I had a bad night of restless sleep or it's raining (why do women like rainy days, I hate them) ((uh rainy days, not women )) Then I say out loud " thank you I'm not in a wheelchair, thank you I'm not in a hospital, thank you I'm not dead, thank you I'm not homeless, thank you I'm breathing on my own"! Every day's a gift and the less often you write about your stupid little self indulgent lunch on face-twit, the less often you text while walking outside surrounded by nature and the more often you read my blog........ the happier you'll be. Things mean whatever we want them to mean not what we were taught they mean. Why is it two different Mercedes owners can react two polar opposite ways when someone crashes into their car? Because the happy person says "it was an accident, no one was hurt, it can be repaired, I've made the same mistake myself, it's only temporary, it's just a material good, I was happy before I had this car and I'll be happy when it's gone and many other POSITIVE philosophies. We all know what the unhappy person thinks. Unhappy always? Probably not but thoughts are habitual and your words predict your future. So today if you didn't realize it and do it already declare "every day's a gift" Because it really is!
I have to confess something to you. For about the first 40 years of my life I was a negative whiner! I am so ashamed of this. What a waste of precious time. Some of my negativity was learned at an early age. My mom ,(bless her heart for beating cancer twice and putting up with ME for all this time), can huff and puff more often than Obama barking out his Hitler health care reform. And her scowl can take the wind out of your sails faster than Tiger Woods can cheat on his wife. (Again and again and again and..... wait he just did it again) It's funny, I read great books like "Think and Grow Rich", modeled my ultra successful and positive dad, always told people I was gonna be a rock star, I was successful in sales and always bounced back from temporary defeat. I felt like I was being positive, I told myself I was being positive and compared to Hilary Clinton, I was positive. (Ever seen that fat turd smile? I didn't think so) But alas I was negative and this is how I discovered that I was negative and turned my frown upside down. As I mentioned by example earlier, we all know that young children often copy their parents without even realizing it, it's the way we are all made.(oh shit!) I have 3 awesome kids and as you can imagine, I have heard many things coming from the back seat of my car. Sometimes my kids can call the jaywalker casually walking in front of my speeding automobile a "jagoff" faster than I can! Well one day my daughter exclaimed "typical" from the back seat of my car after I cursed someone for taking the parking space I was patiently waiting for. A four year old exclaiming "typical" after a minor inconvenience? Horrendous! I was impacted and changed immediately and since that day I swear I've never uttered or even thought "typical". I wake up every day and immediately say out loud over and over "every day's a gift" And if I occasionally have trouble thinking of things to be extra grateful for or if I had a bad night of restless sleep or it's raining (why do women like rainy days, I hate them) ((uh rainy days, not women )) Then I say out loud " thank you I'm not in a wheelchair, thank you I'm not in a hospital, thank you I'm not dead, thank you I'm not homeless, thank you I'm breathing on my own"! Every day's a gift and the less often you write about your stupid little self indulgent lunch on face-twit, the less often you text while walking outside surrounded by nature and the more often you read my blog........ the happier you'll be. Things mean whatever we want them to mean not what we were taught they mean. Why is it two different Mercedes owners can react two polar opposite ways when someone crashes into their car? Because the happy person says "it was an accident, no one was hurt, it can be repaired, I've made the same mistake myself, it's only temporary, it's just a material good, I was happy before I had this car and I'll be happy when it's gone and many other POSITIVE philosophies. We all know what the unhappy person thinks. Unhappy always? Probably not but thoughts are habitual and your words predict your future. So today if you didn't realize it and do it already declare "every day's a gift" Because it really is!
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